SoCS and #LoveIsInDaBlog Day 17 – Passionately calling for a change to the idea of “his and hers”

Anyone who knows me realizes pretty quickly that I’m a passionate person.  When I feel something, I tend to feel it wholeheartedly.  Sure there are things that I’m blah about, but when I care, I’m passionate about it.

I think about how I raised my kids, and honestly, if I had to do it all over again, there are some things I would change.  Granted, some of the decisions weren’t completely mine to make.  Now that I’m truly thinking about it, I did try to let my kids explore, but that wasn’t always allowed by their dad; such as my boys playing with dolls.  Their dad would make comments and say things, and before too long, they just stopped doing it.  If dad doesn’t approve, then it isn’t OK.  Some of it was friends, too, though.  Kids can be so mean, but some of that can be traced directly back to their parents and what they are being taught at home.

I hate the idea that gender is such a “thing”.  Why is it bad for me to lift heavy things?  Why are women not treated them same in the military?  It’s so frustrating that so many things have become “his and hers”.  It’s not as bad as an adult, necessarily, but it’s truly awful for kids.

When my daughter was about ten, she decided that she didn’t want to wear girl’s clothes, not even underwear.  It was really hard at first, but there was a point that I decided it didn’t matter.  The more I fought it, the more she rebelled, so I decided to embrace it.  I bought her the clothes she wanted to wear and accepted her for who she wanted to be.  She wore dreadlocks in her hair and I’m pretty sure she didn’t wear shoes her entire sophomore year of high school.  She eventually grew out of it and now she loves to pretty up.  She will always have that tough side to her though, which I find completely endearing.

She’s faced a lot of bias at her school.  She works in a scene shop and most guys freak out when she tries to lift things or, I don’t know, use a power tool.  It’s ridiculous and I wish the world was different for her, but it’s something I’ve dealt with my whole life too.

It can be hard for boys as well, especially when they decide to do something other than what is considered “a boy thing”.  The thing that I’ve realized is that it’s rooted deep in our society, and while there are changes being made, I think it is going to take a long time to change it completely.

I honestly didn’t mean for this to turn into a rant, but there is that passion I warned you about in the very beginning.

Love Is In Da Blog is hosted by Bee Halton. Today’s prompt was “passion”.


Stream of Consciousness Saturday is hosted by Linda Hill.  Today’s prompt was “his/hers”.


12 thoughts on “SoCS and #LoveIsInDaBlog Day 17 – Passionately calling for a change to the idea of “his and hers”

  1. Hah. Again, I’m reminded of my liking of short shorts and earrings. Thought of as “hers” but in my case totally a “his.”

    Nonetheless, good thoughts here. Who makes these arbitrary standards anyway? Do what you love regardless and (pardon the French) fuck what anyone else thinks.

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  2. Society has conditioned us to have all these gender roles. It IS finally starting to change…for women. Men, on the other hand…I feel bad for them. Seems like it will take a few generations before they start to speak out.

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