I don’t know why I’m stumped on this one. Maybe it’s because I always talk about my kids and being a parent and it’s hard to just sit here and expound on thoughts and ideas I present all the time. Or maybe I’m just making excuses. It’s not like I don’t have ideas. I’ve been sitting here thinking about it for a good half hour. I think it’s more that there are too many ideas and I don’t even know where to start…
I was thinking about when Adelle was young. She was always so independent. I remember having battles with her as early as two or three about what she was going to wear. How crazy is that? Does it matter what she wears? I can’t even remember why we argued… I think it’s because she had so many cute clothes and I liked them and wanted her to wear them, but she wanted to dress herself. Why did I feel the need to argue with her about it?
Sometimes I believe that parents have issues with their children because they have ideas about what they should or shouldn’t be doing and rather than letting their children make decisions and learn, they try to force their own ideas on them. I get that children need guidance along the way, but I also get that parents have a hard time letting go.
Adelle has said many times that she never got away with anything and Andru gets away with everything. The sad reality is, I changed how I was parenting when Adelle was a little older, so she wasn’t able to reap the benefits of it at an early age.
I know some parents believe that if they let go, children will run wild, but my children are well-balanced and I haven’t had to deal with the teenage “horrors” that many parents worry about.
Children are human beings with thoughts and ideas all their own. I believe they deserve our respect just like any other human being. I dislike it when people condescend to me or talk down to me, but I’ve always disliked it, even when I was “a child”. No one wants to feel like they are “less” than someone else, especially when that is based purely on age.
I love my children. I love being a Mom. It’s hard to find the right balance sometimes and I worry that I’m not doing it right or that I’m failing. But it’s not like there’s a parent handbook out there… There isn’t a child handbook either. So, maybe we should all be a little more forgiving, a little more understanding and let go just a little bit and allow our children to be human beings.
Happy Saturday everyone!
This post is part of Stream of Consciousness Saturday hosted by Linda G. Hill. Today’s prompt was “apparent/a parent.” Use either one or both. You choose. Enjoy! Please feel free to click the link and join in the fun.