They Say Opposites Attract

When I first started Stream of Consciousness Saturday, I would read the prompt and if I couldn’t think of anything I would wait, sometimes a full 24 hours before finally putting up a post. I told myself it was stream of consciousness writing because I didn’t edit anything once I started typing. I realized about a month in that I was doing this and stopped reading the prompt in advance. But even still, more often than not, when I read the prompt, I stare at the blank screen and my mind is as void of words as the screen is. I usually have to walk away and come back to it.

That happened today. I typed two sentences of a poem about how opposites attract and then drew a blank. I then made breakfast, talked with my boyfriend, watched some Chopped and then decided to take a shower. As it usually does, my creative-ness came alive in the shower and I was writing the poem in my head. But the thing was, I started going back to the first line and changing it and trying to see what worked best and what didn’t and it dawned on me that I wasn’t truly writing stream of conscious. I was editing even as I was thinking.

I have a tendency to over-think things, and in this case, I’m probably over-thinking it. Perhaps some of you brave souls can let me know in the comments if you do the same things or if I need to do something different in order for creativity to flow when I’m actually sitting in front of my screen.

So, I decided to start over and let whatever comes out onto the screen be my SoCS for the word “opposite”.

The first thing I thought about when I read the word was the saying opposites attract. Which, has some truth to it, but I also think it’s misleading. I think you are attracted to someone for a variety of different reasons and some of those could be things you might be lacking. There are things my boyfriend offers in our relationship that have helped curb some of my own bad habits. For example, he is a lot more patient than I am. The more patient he is, the more likely I am and have actually started to think before I react and slow down and let things be and accept what is (that doesn’t really sound like patience, but it is. Because I said so).

But I also think if you are too opposite, the relationship won’t last very long. I think we are looking for some sort of validation, especially from those closest to us. The old saying “let’s agree to disagree” is probably a great thing to have in a relationship and I think it is worth having, but how hard is it? I want my lover to agree with me and see things from my perspective. I want to share everything with him and being opposite doesn’t really serve that feeling.

Perhaps the “agree to disagree” saying is about celebrating each other’s differences and loving the other person for their thoughts and beliefs. But, honestly, how many of us actually do that? Do you find yourself trying to change that person so they will feel closer? Is that even love?

What I know about relationships is that they are hard. That goes for siblings, children, lovers and coworkers. Trying to understand another human being while keeping your own individuality is truly difficult. I believe I am getting better at it the more I see and the more interactions I have, but I don’t think it will ever be easy.

So, there you have it. The words have stopped flowing and I have written a post for today. I guess that wasn’t too hard… except the part where it was.

This is part of SoCS and Just Jot It January, both hosted by the amazingly talented Lind G Hill. Feel free to join anytime!

JJJ 2015

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17 thoughts on “They Say Opposites Attract

  1. I agree Helen, I think everyone who has ever been a relationship would say its hard work, but ever so rewarding when you see the results of that hard work.
    For me I get an idea that I can start with and it flows from there, I have taught myself to take the words I use and where possible explore the words or concepts, especially in the SOC genre, if it is a genre that is but it helps me. Though I do sometimes try different ways of presenting because my brain says I should. Enjoyed your post, have a good day.

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    • Realationships are definitely worth the hard work it takes to keep them going.

      I guess I do the same thing when I write. I just need to start writing it quicker and not let it marinate so much which takes it out of SoCS writing, I beieve. Thanks for stopping by and commenting. πŸ™‚


  2. I really like the Stream of Consciousness writing because you can write about anything and Linda does not put any rules about how much. It is what comes to mind. I like the way you discussed differences in relationships. I think it is true for me that it can be hard when the other person does not agree or holds an opinion that I can not accept. It does take work to allow for others opinions.

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    • I like that part of the challenge-that you can take the prompts in so many different directions.

      Thanks for stopping by and for your thoughtful comments, Deborah.

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  3. I was struck by your honesty, Helen: I have found , too, that I can’t look at the prompt ahead of time or I do start planning; Linda is very accepting, but I know how freely I’m writing. Twice I’ve had to write more than once on the same prompt (but then I don’t count the second one as SoCS). What is even more difficult for me is not to edit.

    My husband and I are opposites; today, that led to a quarrel, I’m sorry to say. I think it is better for our kids that we’re different, but there are times when the middle ground is hard to find.


    • Me and my boyfried are pretty opposite too, but we are the same where it counts.

      I’m nothing if not honest; especially with myself. I’m also a perfectionist, so the thought that I might be doing something wrong really bothers me. πŸ˜‰

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  4. Sometimes I have to consciously remind myself not to try to change a quality about my husband or myself to mesh better. But then there are times when I appreciate his decisiveness to keep me from being all over the place. I also have to remind myself not to edit my SoC posts. When I do let go and don’t worry about changing things, when I let things be what they want to be, it’s very freeing, When can do that letting go thing.

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  5. First (because it came first into my mind) is I think you and I would get along famously in person. I say this because of this line: (that doesn’t really sound like patience, but it is. Because I said so). It made me laugh out loud.
    Second, to answer your question in a way, I almost always think about the first line of my SoCS post and then let it flow from there. You’ve gotta start somewhere after all. πŸ˜‰
    Third, thank you so much for your kind words, Helen. And thank you even more for joining in. πŸ˜€

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  6. Relationships are hard. There is so much to learn about the other person. But when it becomes fulfilling how wonderful it is. You just love being around this person who you love and the relationship just keeps getting better and better, don’t you think?

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    • I do. It takes a lot of patience and understanding on both sides and a willingness to accept the other person for who they are. You know I love love!


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