Is Two Better Than One?

This is written for Stream of Consciousness Saturday hosted by Linda G. Hill.  The prompt this week was: double/two/bi-/twin or anything else that means “two”.  I suppose I took it in a pretty cheesy direction, but if I’ve learned nothing else from this writing thing, I’ve learned to go with my very first thought and run with it.  Otherwise, I spend more time than I’d like to admit spinning my wheels or hearing crickets from the lack of words filling my head.

Is Two Better Than One?

When I first read the prompt, the first thing that came to my mind is “two is better than one.”  There is a song by Boys Like Girls with the same title.  The song has always resonated with me, but I have to admit to being slightly more cynical these days than I used to be.

When I was growing up, I had this ideal about love that we all most likely share at a certain point.  Books and movies didn’t help this concept.  Most of them ended happily ever after when boy finally falls for girl or vice-versa and they make it through some conflict, realize their love and voila!  They live happily ever after.  They never really showed what happened next.  So, there was a part of me that thought this would happen.

I fell in love when I was sixteen for the first time.  It was beautiful and tragic and wonderful and horrible all at the same time.  It takes work for two people to come together and decide they want to spend their moments together.  Most people don’t last, or if they do, they spend much of the time in unhappiness, staying with that person for all the wrong reasons.  (That sounds really jaded, even for me, but our divorce rate is atrocious, and looking at some relationships that have lasted over 20 years, you wonder why they even stayed together).

So, is two really better than one?

I would like to think that whatever brings two people together is a strong link that can last, if we allow it.  It takes growing with that person, backing down when you don’t want to, but are you really going to stand toe to toe with the one you love over an idea?  Over something you believe but they think slightly differently about?

This brings to mind another song by the Beatles “All you need is love”.  I think it is, or it can be.  Because love isn’t just one thing.  Love grows and changes and becomes something else, if you allow it.  It isn’t a stagnant thing.  It is so many different things that are all wrapped up in one word.  It isn’t really fair to the word love and how much we put into it.

Despite everything I have been through in my life, I still love LOVE.  I love being with another person, having a deep connection and working together to make it through this thing called life.  Love isn’t a mystical thing that just happens.  It takes work and growth and self-realization.  But in the end, I will always believe it’s worth it.  I’m going to leave you with some lyrics from both songs I’ve listed above.  I’m not a huge fan of linking to videos, but both can be found on YouTube if you’re so inclined.  I also found both sets of lyrics on http://www.azlyrics.com.

Two is Better Than One by Boys Like Girls

And I’m thinking, I can’t live without you
‘Cause, baby, two is better than one
There’s so much time to figure out the best of my life
But I’ll figure out with all that’s said and done
Two is better than one

All You Need is Love by The Beatles

Nothing you can make that can’t be made
No one you can save that can’t be saved
Nothing you can do but you can learn how to be you in time
It’s easy

All you need is love
All you need is love
All you need is love, love
Love is all you need

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7 thoughts on “Is Two Better Than One?

  1. Later this month,my husband and I will celebrate seventeen years of marriage. It hasn’t been happily ever after. We both are wounded by our pasts, and we both brought a lot of emotional baggage we didn’t even know we were carrying into this relationship. Our second child died as a newborn; we never heard his voice or had the chance to bring him home. We grieved him differently, and still do, over a decade later.

    Some of our baggage got dumped on our kids. Learning how not to do that is a process we might never be perfect at, but which we’re both committed to keep improving.

    In the early years, we had many explosive conflicts. Neither of us had any idea how to disagree peacefully. Once in a while, we still stumble, and forget things we’ve learned, and the old ways slink out…

    But we’re much better now at seeing what’s happening, and getting a bit of emotional space. I remind myself often that I alone am responsible for my actions, and those are also the only ones I can control. I look to myself, more and more, when I feel a change needs to be made.

    This man is more than my husband. He’s my best friend, and, as our marriage vows stated, my Accomplice in Mischief, Partner in Parenthood, strongest ally and toughest adversary…

    Things are both more honest and far better between us than they’ve ever been. Happily ever after isn’t nearly as zesty as riding the waves of powerful surges and ebbs in our love and passion.

    I more than love my husband. I like him, respect him, desire him, cherish him, and think he’s pretty damned groovy. ❤

    I believe in love when it's based in reality, and when it is more than just a word tossed around carelessly.

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    • I’m SO happy for you both. I think, if you can manage to work through whatever it is, you can reach a pretty great place in marriage. I wasn’t as fortunate and have started over quite a few times. I’ve been with my boyfriend now for a little over a year and a half and while it’s been rocky at times, we’ve had some pretty magical moments too. Damn reality for not being like it is in movies and books! LOL

      Thank you for sharing your story. ❤

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      • Real life comes with sunlight and shadows, smooth and rocky places. And sometimes, it’s best to start over. I think both parties need to be committed and compatible on many levels for things to work out. I’m very fortunate in that my husband and I have enough in common, and enough different, that it works out well. Of course, there have been times when we’ve felt very distant, but we always seem to come back to a better space. If we couldn’t, it would be a different story…

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  2. I loved this. My husband and I celebrated our 45 wedding anniversary in July. It has been a really hard marriage, but I would not trade the sweet love that now exists between us. I am just sorry that our children did not see a loving relationship when they were growing up. Love truly is wonderful!!

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