This is written for Stream of Consciousness Saturday hosted by Linda G. Hill. The prompt this week was: double/two/bi-/twin or anything else that means “two”. I suppose I took it in a pretty cheesy direction, but if I’ve learned nothing else from this writing thing, I’ve learned to go with my very first thought and run with it. Otherwise, I spend more time than I’d like to admit spinning my wheels or hearing crickets from the lack of words filling my head.
Is Two Better Than One?
When I first read the prompt, the first thing that came to my mind is “two is better than one.” There is a song by Boys Like Girls with the same title. The song has always resonated with me, but I have to admit to being slightly more cynical these days than I used to be.
When I was growing up, I had this ideal about love that we all most likely share at a certain point. Books and movies didn’t help this concept. Most of them ended happily ever after when boy finally falls for girl or vice-versa and they make it through some conflict, realize their love and voila! They live happily ever after. They never really showed what happened next. So, there was a part of me that thought this would happen.
I fell in love when I was sixteen for the first time. It was beautiful and tragic and wonderful and horrible all at the same time. It takes work for two people to come together and decide they want to spend their moments together. Most people don’t last, or if they do, they spend much of the time in unhappiness, staying with that person for all the wrong reasons. (That sounds really jaded, even for me, but our divorce rate is atrocious, and looking at some relationships that have lasted over 20 years, you wonder why they even stayed together).
So, is two really better than one?
I would like to think that whatever brings two people together is a strong link that can last, if we allow it. It takes growing with that person, backing down when you don’t want to, but are you really going to stand toe to toe with the one you love over an idea? Over something you believe but they think slightly differently about?
This brings to mind another song by the Beatles “All you need is love”. I think it is, or it can be. Because love isn’t just one thing. Love grows and changes and becomes something else, if you allow it. It isn’t a stagnant thing. It is so many different things that are all wrapped up in one word. It isn’t really fair to the word love and how much we put into it.
Despite everything I have been through in my life, I still love LOVE. I love being with another person, having a deep connection and working together to make it through this thing called life. Love isn’t a mystical thing that just happens. It takes work and growth and self-realization. But in the end, I will always believe it’s worth it. I’m going to leave you with some lyrics from both songs I’ve listed above. I’m not a huge fan of linking to videos, but both can be found on YouTube if you’re so inclined. I also found both sets of lyrics on http://www.azlyrics.com.
Two is Better Than One by Boys Like Girls
And I’m thinking, I can’t live without you
‘Cause, baby, two is better than one
There’s so much time to figure out the best of my life
But I’ll figure out with all that’s said and done
Two is better than one
All You Need is Love by The Beatles
Nothing you can make that can’t be made
No one you can save that can’t be saved
Nothing you can do but you can learn how to be you in time
All you need is love
All you need is love
All you need is love, love
Love is all you need